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Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to "impress" the woman that he’s talking to:

1) He tries to only say "cool" things, or things that will "impress" the woman.
2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation… sometimes coming across as "formal".
3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t like, he "back-pedals" and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He doesn’t say anything "risky", doesn’t tease the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.

…in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he "likes", he’s usually on his "best behavior", and he’s trying to "put his best foot forward".

To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY "LIKE".

And this drive to impress often makes them act UNNATURAL.

There’s your first hint, in fact…

THE SECRET

Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to share a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in 1,000 men will figure out on their own?

Well, here it is:

STOP TRYING

If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I’m teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be "impressed" by you.

TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN’T IMPRESS HER.

???**%*&$(%*@#$$)%($)%*$&%$

Well, no matter if the guys engaged, or married or in relationship, they just like to impress woman..not only the women he likes, but eventually, all woman on earth.. why is that? hmm i don’t see the rationale, probably ‘natural born’ as a MAN and i "HATE" it. Face it and be fair dumb *** ..  oppss…

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18-02-06 and 19-02-06 ; Wedding to attend.. Noor Yasmin Hashim & Azizu Azroll at Dewan Beringin Sri Gombak and Ukay Club.

Noor Yasmin Hashim, my best best fren. Living near by and we are kind of grew in the same neighborhood, with the same friends, with the same sekolah ngaji which we frequently ditched coz too bored with the surrounding bla bla bla..
3-tied-best friends, me, is and min.. and we called ourselves cun, yogia and captain and guess from where the names exist? hehe.. if you were born in early 80s and late 70s, you will know this movie.. hehe.. and who got to lead the group, just see the name sequence hahahahah… kidding.. but well it true what; me, is, min = cun, yogia, captain. What to say, they called me with this name before even not so cunss.. hehe.. LOL!

Well, each story we shared together and in fact, even min has changed her status, we still hang out like old days, sometimes perhaps.. we are just a couple block away.. so kalau dia jerit, i boleh dengar from my house.. and vice versa.. oh well.. such a memory.. we are grown up.. each of us got our own "herStory" to tell.. and each of us know ourselves much.. we share secrets, we share pillows and we share everything and even min has married, nothing much difference, we are still contactable.. reachable for each other except tak leh nak share pillow.. uhhhuu..obviously.. daaa

Last but not least.. i pray for your happiness.. now and forever.. stilll be luving, still be needing, still be caring.. thanks for the friendship.. and thanks for cherish my life (^_*)

11-2-2006 Got little bear from saufi
At this date, it was the memorable date for me not to make someone’s life miserable.. hmm hard to tell and dunno where it begins, but all i know, i hurt someone heart
and up to this date, i try NOT to repeat the same mistake again and again and if i do, you know what to do

"We all got our own funny moods
I’ve got mine
Woman, you got yours too
Just trust in me
Like I trust in you
As long as we’ve been together "

14-2-2006 Got cute luvly bracelet for our memories.
Again, every day is a memorable day for me.. and again a suprise. and can’t count how many times..
But what i know, tetiba he was here at my house, haha even some technical probs occured! haha… tu la, tapi besh, surprise yang bebetul suprise.. haha.. went out for dinner, a little talk, a "little luvly" gift haha.. thanks dear.. thanks for appreciate me, thanks for being with me, thanks for making my life bloosomss.. muahs!!

"Cinta ku jika kau tanya pada bintang
kemilauan sinar takkan hilang
Akan kusinari duniamu
Moga terpadam sangsi mu

Cinta ku jika kau lihat tingginya awan
Takkan tercakar tinggi cinta ku
Hanya hati ku tahu apa mahu ku
Dan duniaku pastinya milik mu
Hingga ke akhir hayat ku… "

a good lover
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a good daddy
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a good entertainer
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http://norazi.fotopages.com/
http://www.mohdneotech.com/v2/
http://fahmiadam.blogspot.com/2005_03_01_fahmiadam_archive.html

a cute lady
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http://sitinasyroh.blogs.friendster.com
http://psychedelichippie.blogs.friendster.com/colours_of_my_life/

Don’t know when i fall into futsal, but first start is when Mahdi let us borrow his FUTSAL BALL SIZE 5 .. then we started from then, buy our own ball and the pusher semangat lifter was me and shara.. then siti and meha came into pic and finally the cute petite little coach.. aya.. but sometimes we do import some players from UITM Segamat, which is my sis, and from UPM my sis again.. see, how rich our team is, import player tu…. hahaha..tak lupa, shara’s friend. Then, we did import one coach probably for last week aja kot, sebab dia banyak commitment lain and he started to play as GOAL KEEPER coincidently. Last game was at futsal court at Jln Segambut. Previously, we played at UIA and now, want to turn up out interest in futsaling to a reality interesting gediks hoby.. ANYONE, care to JOIN? we still short of players la. Come and join if you interested, but still, the player must be:

• 23 and above
• Sweet and cute
• Tall, 5′ 5′
• Slim, Chubby, Skinny can still go
• Skin type - not too sensitive, varies but not too oily
• Long legs hmm still can nego
• Aggressive but not too aggressive, scare it leads to battle court rather than futsal court
• At last, BERJIWA SENI DAN BERSEMANGAT WAJA, PUTRA, GEN2, SAVVY and most importantly bersemangat PERDANA, please digest what i mean.

Can contact me, shara, siti, meha for details. Only the shorlisted will be called. Thanks.

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What is futsal?

Futsal is the international form of indoor soccer and is played under the banner of FIFA throughout the world by more than 25 millions players. The terms FUTSAL is the international term used for the game. It is derived from the Spanish or Portuguese word for .soccer., FUTbo, FUTebol and the French or Spanish word for indoor, Salon or SALa. Futsal is a 5-a-side version of soccer that is played indoors on a variety of surfaces.

The origin of futsal can be traced back to Montevideo, Uruguay in 1930 when Juan Carlos Ceriani devised a five a side version of soccer for youth competition in YMCA.s. Because the sports is a great skill developer, demanding quick reflexes, fast thinking and pin point passing, its an exciting game for children as well as adults. Great soccer superstar such as Pele, Zico and Ronaldo grew up playing the game and credit Futsal for developing their skills. Futsal is played with a special, low bounce ball, necessitating players to use their skills, rather than the ball.s bounce to propel it.

President, AOL Technologies
America Online Inc.
Dulles, Virginia

Two and a half years ago, AOL was feeling hamstrung at the technologies level. There was a bottleneck at the top. We decided to make that division team based, and created core teams that were empowered to make decisions about products.

It was the best thing that we could have done. The core teams spun off satellite teams (also made up of small groups of people) that focused on specific projects, with specific goals and expectations.

The management challenge is to understand that the people who report to you may get most of their direction from another person or from several other people: their team leaders. And people can be on more than one team, of course. It’s the manager’s job to think about whether this person is being stretched too thin, or whether that person needs some special training.

Size is the key. Have the smallest number of people possible on each team. Another rule: no delegates. You don’t want people who have to take the team’s ideas back to someone else to get authorization. You want the decision makers.

Shuttle-launch director
John F. Kennedy Space Center
Kennedy Space Center, Florida

Where I work, having a well-functioning team can be a matter of life or death. The most critical element of a successful shuttle-launch team is an open channel of communication from each member to the team leader.

With my team, I make sure that everyone knows to inform me immediately if there’s a glitch in his or her work — any glitch — even if it’s just something that’s marginally off, but still within normal specs.

But there are a couple of human factors that can work against us. People tend to be intimidated by those who hold leadership positions. And often people don’t want to stand out. It takes about four months to prepare for each mission. By the time the launch date arrives, everyone wants it to go. It’s natural not to want to be the person who gets the mission scrubbed.

I tell people that being on a team is like getting a huge family ready to go on a picnic. Say you have to get 50 or 60 people ready to go, and then one of the kids gets sick. Picnic scrubbed. You go when the kid is better. It’s as simple as that.

I make it clear that nobody should ever feel bad about being the reason that we scrub a launch. If we didn’t launch that day, it’s because we put safety first — and that’s what is really important. We’ll try to make the launch happen later.

I also try to get to know everyone on the team in an attempt to do away with that intimidation factor. I came up through the ranks here, so a lot of people know me anyway. But I make it a point to spend at least half of my time in my office in the processing area, rather than in my office in the corporate area. It’s good for me and it’s good for the team, both personally and professionally. A team works better when people are at ease with the leader. Members are more likely to say what’s on their minds. I suspect that’s true of any team.

Chairman and CEO
Turner Corp.
Dallas, Texas

A successful team boils down to two things: mutual respect among team members and a common vision about where the team is going.

At Turner, we are completely dependent on teams — not only on teams that exist within the organization, but also on teams that are made up of all sorts of people from the outside, such as architects, designers, and suppliers.

We put teams together to build stadiums and commercial high-rises. Sometimes those teams are easier to manage because there’s a clear sense of what the outcome should be. But we also put internal teams together to work on smaller-scale projects, such as figuring out what our new operating system should look like. Those sorts of teams can be more difficult to create and sustain, because the expected results aren’t as clear. But in the end, it boils down to those two elements. Respect. A common vision. That’s what you need.

12-02-2006, 4 things to improve quickly..

• Will understand people better
• Will not take things seriously or sensitively
• Will try to control emotion
• Will accept HIS fate

And what touched me this morning was, something that a person wrote:

* 20th Wedding Annivessary:
To my beloved wife…. you are lucky because I accept change only for the better… and so far, I have not seen any better!! And yes my dearest…. I am very lucky because you accept me as I am

And whats so touched is i coincidently met someone whose face like someone i’ve known for previous years, and not sure he is who he is, but need to find the tranquillity with him. Wish you all the best in life..

And here for my relief and my belief.. thanks..

*If you don’t know me by now
You’ll never, never, never know me

All the things that we’ve been through
You should understand me
Like I understand you
Now baby I know the difference
Between right and wrong
I ain’t gonna do nothin’
To upset our happy home
Oh, don’t get so excited
When I comee home a little late at night
Cause we only act like children
When we argue, fuss and fight

(Repeat *)

We all got our own funny moods
I’ve got mine
Woman, you got yours too
Just trust in me
Like I trust in you
As long as we’ve been together
That should be so easy to do
Just get yourself together
Or we might as well say good-bye
What good is a love affair
When we can’t see eye-to-eye 

There are moments in life when you miss someone
so much that you just want to pick them from
your dreams and hug them for real!

When the door of happiness closes, another opens;
but often times we look so long at the
closed door that we don’t see the one
which has been opened for us.

Don’t go for looks; they can deceive.
Don’t go for wealth; even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile,
because it takes only a smile to
make a dark day seem bright.
Find the one that makes your heart smile.

Dream what you want to dream;
go where you want to go;
be what you want to be,
because you have only one life
and one chance to do all the things
you want to do.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,
enough trials to make you strong,
enough sorrow to keep you human, and
enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily
have the best of everything;
they just make the most of
everything that comes along their way.

The brightest future will always
be based on a forgotten past;
you can’t go forward in life until
you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying
and everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end,
you’re the one who is smiling and everyone
around you is crying.

Don’t count the years–count the memories………..

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,
but by the moments that take our breath away

u’ll never know what u’ll loose till its gone…..

Kepentingan 10 Muharam menurut kalendar Islam

SELAIN penetapan tahun baru Hijrah pada awal Muharam, ada banyak peristiwa menarik dalam sejarah Islam berlaku sepanjang bulan Muharam yang sedang kita dilalui sekarang.

Pada 10 Muharam, misalnya masyarakat Islam sering membuat sejenis bubur yang dinamakan bubur Asyura. Asyura itu diambil dari perkataan ‘Asyarah’ dalam bahasa Arab yang bermaksud sepuluh. Jadi hari Asyura itu ertinya hari yang ke sepuluh bulan Muharam.

Hari itu mengikut keterangan hadis yang sahih ialah hari bersejarah pada umat Yahudi pada zaman Nabi Musa as, kerana pada hari itu Allah menyelamatkan Nabi Musa dan pengikutnya serta menenggelamkan Firaun.

Junjungan Rasulullah juga memerintahkan umat Islam berpuasa sunat dan meluaskan perbelanjaan kepada keluarga pada hari itu.

Hari Allah menurunkan nikmat atau azab pada manusia adalah dinamakan Hari Allah yang diminta kita selalu mengenanginya supaya menimbulkan rasa syukur atau insaf.

Membuat bubur Asyura adalah berdasarkan riwayat yang daif mengatakan hari Asyura adalah hari Allah mengurniakan nikmat besar kepada nabi yang terdahulu semenjak Nabi Adam AS hingga pada Nabi Muhammad saw.

Dalam peristiwa itu disebut Nabi Nuh as dan pengikutnya turun dari bahteranya pada hari Asyura berasa lapar dan dahaga selepas bekalan masing-masing habis, maka diperintahkan oleh Nabi Nuh supaya masing-masing membawa segenggam biji-bijian dari apa jenis yang ada pada mereka, maka terkumpullah tujuh jenis bijian yang dicampurkan kesemuanya lalu dimasak dan dijadikan bubur.

Dengan berkat Nabi Nuh kenyanglah pengikutnya pada hari itu. Dari cerita inilah dikatakan sunat membuat bubur Asyura dari tujuh jenis biji-bijian untuk dijamukan kepada fakir miskin pada hari itu.

Bulan Muharam mengikut pandangan Islam adalah bulan haram yang empat, iaitu bulan Rejab, Zulkaedah, Zulhijah dan Muharam. Dalam empat bulan ini dilarang melancarkan peperangan kecuali darurat yang tidak dapat dielakkan.

Firman Allah surah at-Taubah ayat 36 yang bermaksud: "Sesungguhnya bulan-bulan di sisi hukum Allah ialah dua belas bulan (yang telah ditetapkan) di dalam kitab Allah semasa ia menciptakan langitdan bumi di antaranya empat bulan yang dihormati. Ketetapan yang demikian itu ialah agama yang betul lurus, maka janganlah kamu menganiaya diri kamu dalam bulan-bulan yang dihormati itu (dengan melanggar larangan-Nya)."

Mengikut maksud ayat ini segala kerja yang baik dan amalan kebajikan tiada halangannya dilakukan pada bulan Muharam, begitu juga dengan bulan Rejab, Zulkaedah dan Zulhijjah, hanya maksiat dan kezaliman sahaja dilarang lebih keras pada bulan yang lainnya.

Perkahwinan mengikut pandangan Islam adalah satu amalan kebajikan bukannya amalan kezaliman dan maksiat, oleh itu tiada larangan dalam Islam untuk membuat kenduri kahwin dalam bulan Muharam.

Soal memilih ketika seperti hari baik, bulan baik dan waktu yang baik untuk melangsungkan suatu pekerjaan maka tiadalah dalam ajaran Islam yang sebenarnya.

Bersempena baik dan bersempena jahat dilarang dalam Islam, yang dikehendakinya ialah kita berserah kepada Allah kerana tiada siapa yang tahu perkara tersembunyi dalam Iradat Allah, qada dan qadar-Nya.

Sesetengah ulama Islam berpendapat masalah larangan untuk menganjurkan majlis perkahwinan mungkin timbul daripada puak Syiah kerana kebetulan pada bulan Muharam terbunuhnya Saidina Hussain di Karbala.

Jadi sejak itu orang Syiah memandang bulan Muharam sebagai bulan dukacita dan bulan berkabung, maka tidak digalak mengadakan majlis kenduri kahwin dan majlis bersuka ria pada bulan itu.

Just check it out, tapi fees mahal sangat!

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